February 12 2013

Dear Single Friend,

It’s that time of the year again, when we join together to celebrate S.A.D. on February 14. Yes, it’s true true that couples agonize over what to give their significant other, how to get the best reservations in town, and what color of roses signify the right stage in their relationship all to satisfy a chubby baby with wings and a bow and arrow. Whereas, we get to throw on our sweats, pull out the Chunky Monkey, and watch When Harry Met Sally for the 11 billionth time.

It’s Singles Awareness Day…let’s all rejoice.

K79A5371I’m kidding.

If you’re like me, you often wonder why on earth you’re celebrating yet another holiday or milestone on your own again. You might not be cuckoo or have three eyeballs, so your singleness continues to be unexplained. You might feel alone and confused. You might treasure your awesome single life, but wouldn’t mind a little romance or even just a date and conversation with a normal person. If you’re like me.

If you’re like me, you might have trust issues with our Father in Heaven. You might be waiting for promises to be fulfilled. You might be waiting for ALL THE THINGS. You might be putting your “stuff” on Him.

You might have forgotten that Abraham waited and waited on God to fulfill his promises and lived in utter obedience even though he did not understand or have any inkling of His plan.

You might have forgotten that Sarah, his wife, was barren until she was an old woman. But God did bless them with progeny and DID fulfill his promise to make a great nation of them.

You might have forgotten that faith and trust go hand in hand and that this is not a passive emotion, belief, or action.

You might be so worried about your own dreams and plans that you haven’t spent time seeking the Lord’s will for you. If you’re like me.

It’s a slippery slope and holidays (especially those about love) can quite often exacerbate our confusion and loneliness.

But you are not alone. Even when it doesn’t feel like it, our Heavenly Father is there, waiting to wrap us in His arms. And if you are hurting, in disbelief, or just don’t feel it, I’m here, too. I’ll be your single buddy – I’ve got extra bowls and plenty of Chunky Monkey to go around.


So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.
– 1 Thessalonians 5:11

Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. – Galatians 6:2


  1. Laura

    Thanks for writing this! It’s an encouragement to know that others are feeling the same things. And what a great reminder that faith and trust are not passive emotions!

    • JenJ

      Absolutely. We all too often feel like we’re wandering in the wilderness alone…but we’re not! And I have to remind myself all the time to renew my faith and trust and live obediently like Abraham and Sarah!!!

  2. Thank you for the reminder that we develop trust issues. I try and try and try to trust what I feel like God is telling me, then I get scared that it’s not Him but me.. and I don’t really hear it, and I don’t know what God is really saying. It sucks. :( Glad I’m not the only one with trust issues. I never thought when I was younger I’d have trouble trusting God. :(

    • JenJ

      I feel the same way…but then I have to remind myself that a relationship with the Lord isn’t immune to emotions and concerns about trust. It’s a journey…be gentle with yourself and with our Father!

      • What an awesome point. Thanks girlie :)

  3. I absolutely love your posts here, JJ – you are wise and funny and disarming.

  4. Reading your writing makes me so glad you’re my friend. It’s funny and “solidarity, baby” without bitterness or angst. Love it. Love you.

  5. Girl, you know I’m like you. I’m doing OK this V-Day but it’s good to have a reminder that God is with us. Seriously wishing we didn’t live so far apart so I could take you up on the Ben and Jerry’s. Except I want Red Velvet Cake!

  6. “You might treasure your awesome single life, but wouldn’t mind a little romance or even just a date and conversation with a normal person.”

    That is so me right now. Thank you!

  7. This is excellent, JJ. Love your voice.


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