My young friend and I were instant messaging back and forth. She was weeks away from turning 15 and we spoke about her birthday plans and then the future. My unsolicited advice ended with, “maybe you could study that in college.” She responded with, “I don’t think I’m going to college. God has given me a desire to be a wife and mother.”
I was stumped…truly aghast.
She fully expected that God would bring her a husband in the next couple of years and that college was unnecessary.
Whereas, I fully expected that she’d miss endless opportunities if she didn’t remain open to them.
My parents got married at 20 and I’ve always admired their relationship; they have a love story that is truly enviable. I grew up with the plan and even expectation that I’d follow in their footsteps. As a teenager, I believed God had created me to be a wife and mother (and still do).
However, I turned 36 last week and those expectations still haven’t been met.
With that said, the waiting has not been in vain.
In the last twenty years, I have had amazing experiences. God has been SO good to me and has shown me the best of this world. Sure, there’s been heartache, but I’m also incredibly thankful for the special opportunities I’ve been given; many of those a direct result of my time in college, which is probably why I was so dumbfounded by the exchange with my young friend.
Many of us are waiting for our dreams, plans, and expectations to come to fruition. And we all know people who believe they are in some sort of limbo.
But here’s the thing…there is beauty in that waiting. There are blessings that we all too often miss because our eye is on the endgame, rather than the journey. There are opportunities for service, for worship, for learning, for success, for friendship, for adventure, for action.
God may not meet our expectations in the time we’d like, but He exceeds them by blessing us in countless other ways each and every day.
And once we realize that, the waiting doesn’t seem so bad.